Self-Sabotage

Patterns of behaviour

• Overcommitting
• Never saying no
• Getting distracted
• Perfectionism (measuring against)

Impostures syndrome

• One step away from being found out as a fraud
• Keep being an impostor
• Others are also impostors

Saying no

• Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTs)
• More Accurate Thoughts (MATHs)
• ANTs ... and so ... MATHs

It's the thought that counts

• Depends what you do with the thoughts.
• Event -> Beliefs (intervening probabilities) -> Feelings

Twisted thinking (wrong conclusions -> wrong actions)

• All or nothing
• Over generalisation
• Mental filter
• Discounting the positives
• Jumping to conclusions
• Magnification
• Emotional reasoning (feelings as facts)
• Shoulds (assuming how things should be)
• Labelling
• Personalisation and blame

Procrastination

• Avoidance strategies
• Action -> Motivation -> Action -> More action
• Break into smaller pieces
• Procrastinators: Leaders of Tomorrow

Time management

• Velcro fingers
• The three D's
• Do it
• Diarise
• Ditch it
• Pareto principle (80/20)
• 20% of the work leads to 80% of the output

Circles of influence

• Core: Can control
• Inner circle: Can influence
• Outer circle: Can't control

Writing is not recording, it is thinking